Where to Fish?

The topic of “fishing” has been coming up oh so often in my life now. For those of you who have not been following along, fishing is my code for finding an eligible bachelor. My bffff and I started calling it that at the Angel game we went to a couple weeks ago (catch up here). Since then it has been a topic of discussion. On my Instagram story I posted a question, “Where do you find people or where did you find your person?”. That has been my biggest wonder. Obviously I know you need to go out (which I am just so bleh about) but where are good places to go out to? Among the answers I got, the most common answer was online. Come to think of it, everyone I have spoken to about being single, their first question has been “are you on the dating apps?”.

Is this the new societal norm that when one becomes single you instantly make an online profile? Do people from our generation not go out to find someone the good old fashion way? I can’t help but wonder, did I miss out on that way of life?

I was in three long term relationships with no casual dating in between. I have actually never been on a real date. When I say real, I mean a date with someone I didn’t know previously. I have never just met someone and exchanged numbers because we were both interested and then gone on a date. Is this not how it happens anymore?

This is in no offense to anyone who has tried online dating or even who has succeeded at it, but to me personally, I always thought online dating was for when you have given up on trying to find someone on your own by going out into the world. I feel like I shouldn’t even try online dating until I have at least given myself a chance of finding someone on my own, yet everyone else seems it is acceptable to just go straight for dating apps. Are we that unable of finding a match for ourselves?

Again, this is in no offense to anyone on the apps, this is my personal opinion. There is nothing wrong with finding a date online, just in my personal opinion, I would like to try it on my own first. Mind you, I never go out so this process is going swimmingly. But I am finally in the mindset where I want to go out, so if you have any REAL suggestions of good places to go, let me know.

This doesn’t mean I might not be on the apps in the future, I just want to bet on myself and give myself a try. I know I am not a great talker. I feel so awkward and talk fast when I am nervous. I need to challenge myself and meet someone in person.  Starting off meeting someone via an online chat is not going to help the situation. In church they said there are the most connections today than ever before, but there is the least amount of connectedness than ever before. We connect online but do not know how to actually be connected. I think we need to change this!

I hope my next fishing post will be about me getting out there. My bffff said she will be my wing woman so we just need to make some plans, are you ready bfff?!

I think in realty I am just really excited to pick out an outfit for a date LOL! I bought a super cute top from the Nordstrom Anniversary sale that I thought would be cute for a date that I don’t have yet. I wore this other outfit below last night and I woke up to a text from my bffff saying it was cute and asked if I went fishing. At first I thought she literally meant fishing with a pole and all HAHA! But come to think of it, this would make a cute casual date outfit. Items linked below!

Top (this top is almost sold out so here are a couple similar options: one and two | Jeans | Shoes | Necklace

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Lunch Date Look!

I have multiple outfits that I love for going on dates, but I really love dressing for lunch dates. One of my current favorite looks for a lunch date includes this red off the shoulder top I bought from Nectar Clothing (current alternative linked) in the Claremont Village. It is perfect for lunch because you can dress it up or down. Here I paired it with white shorts from Old Navy, and my indigo rd. wedges from Macy’s. Another option could be brown sandals in case you don’t want to look too overdressed. This top could also be paired with blue jean shorts, regular pants, boyfriend jeans, or even white jeans. If you are doing normal blue jeans, you can also try pairing the top with white sandals. I have worn this top with boyfriend jeans, and my wedges out to a dinner date with a friend and it was so perfect for the occasion! Even though this specific top is from last year, this simple look can be easily recreated with most off the shoulder tops, especially since they are still very popular this year. Aside from it being a great date outfit, it is a great spring and summer outfit in general whether on a date, out with the girls, or at a family gathering!

Xo- C

 

Introducing the.B.Law Style Panel: Cherlynn!

The fourth member of the.B.Law Style Panel is Cherlynn! We have been best friends for 17 years now. We met in the street because my dad moved onto hers when I was in 4th grade. Although we never went to the same school we always stayed in touch and we finally lived in the same city in high school. Then the best thing happened, we went to the same college, the University of La Verne! It was fate. What is so unique about our friendship is she is actually my older sister’s best friend too. Cher is even close to our younger sister. We call ourselves the “Quadpod” and text in a group message everyday. She is literally like a sister and has seen us all through the best and worst times.  


Anyways, Cherlynn will be my expert on dressing to work with kids and staying stylish AND comfy doing so. She will also be talking about dressing for dates, especially when it’s a brand new date! I’m excited for what she has to share! Check out her fun facts below:

  • Describe your personal style in 3-5 words: In work- professional, outside of work- simple and casual
  • Your go to outfit/piece of clothing: Boyfriend pants 
  • Favorite place to shop: Target
  • Favorite shoe brand: Depends on the shoe- Nike, Rainbows, Converse, and heels I don’t care as long as they are comfy! 
  • Favorite current trend: Anything with flowers
  • Style preference: Casual or dressy, it really depends 
  • Where do you get most of your style inspiration: Pinterest or Instagram
  • One piece of makeup you cannot live without: Lancôme foundation