The topic of “fishing” has been coming up oh so often in my life now. For those of you who have not been following along, fishing is my code for finding an eligible bachelor. My bffff and I started calling it that at the Angel game we went to a couple weeks ago (catch up here). Since then it has been a topic of discussion. On my Instagram story I posted a question, “Where do you find people or where did you find your person?”. That has been my biggest wonder. Obviously I know you need to go out (which I am just so bleh about) but where are good places to go out to? Among the answers I got, the most common answer was online. Come to think of it, everyone I have spoken to about being single, their first question has been “are you on the dating apps?”.
Is this the new societal norm that when one becomes single you instantly make an online profile? Do people from our generation not go out to find someone the good old fashion way? I can’t help but wonder, did I miss out on that way of life?
I was in three long term relationships with no casual dating in between. I have actually never been on a real date. When I say real, I mean a date with someone I didn’t know previously. I have never just met someone and exchanged numbers because we were both interested and then gone on a date. Is this not how it happens anymore?
This is in no offense to anyone who has tried online dating or even who has succeeded at it, but to me personally, I always thought online dating was for when you have given up on trying to find someone on your own by going out into the world. I feel like I shouldn’t even try online dating until I have at least given myself a chance of finding someone on my own, yet everyone else seems it is acceptable to just go straight for dating apps. Are we that unable of finding a match for ourselves?
Again, this is in no offense to anyone on the apps, this is my personal opinion. There is nothing wrong with finding a date online, just in my personal opinion, I would like to try it on my own first. Mind you, I never go out so this process is going swimmingly. But I am finally in the mindset where I want to go out, so if you have any REAL suggestions of good places to go, let me know.
This doesn’t mean I might not be on the apps in the future, I just want to bet on myself and give myself a try. I know I am not a great talker. I feel so awkward and talk fast when I am nervous. I need to challenge myself and meet someone in person. Starting off meeting someone via an online chat is not going to help the situation. In church they said there are the most connections today than ever before, but there is the least amount of connectedness than ever before. We connect online but do not know how to actually be connected. I think we need to change this!
I hope my next fishing post will be about me getting out there. My bffff said she will be my wing woman so we just need to make some plans, are you ready bfff?!
I think in realty I am just really excited to pick out an outfit for a date LOL! I bought a super cute top from the Nordstrom Anniversary sale that I thought would be cute for a date that I don’t have yet. I wore this other outfit below last night and I woke up to a text from my bffff saying it was cute and asked if I went fishing. At first I thought she literally meant fishing with a pole and all HAHA! But come to think of it, this would make a cute casual date outfit. Items linked below!
Top (this top is almost sold out so here are a couple similar options: one and two | Jeans | Shoes | Necklace