Chase Me Gosh Darn-It!

**Disclaimer: this post might just be a ramble, but it is the start to a new series of posts. So yeah read on!

I feel like every time I write a new blog I want to start it off like, “Hey! It’s been awhile…”. Obviously it has been awhile, let’s not kid ourselves. I have not been writing so let’s just skip that part and be real haha.

So hi! I know this is supposed to be a style blog or whatever, but I’ve got some feelings and shit. How come even though you want to be effing chased, you allow guys to have it easy and don’t make it hard to chase you? Am I that starved for attention that I am willing to accept in the moment affection that won’t last? AM I JUST STUPID?! I am starting to think that is the issue…

Question: what is more dumb? Being actually stupid and not realizing what the consequences of your actions might be, OR being smart enough to know the consequences and choosing to do that action anyways?

This question came up after choices I made that I most definitely knew the consequences of, but tried to convince myself otherwise (it may have also been the alcohol convincing me otherwise). This story will potentially get shared in time, but regardless, a valid question I am pondering.

Being in the dating world is tough, like more than just trying to actually find a man who will give you the time of day. But once one actually does, you have so many things to decipher. Maybe I just overthink everything, but I have quickly come to realize that I do not know how to date. I do not know the rules, I do not know the games, I do not know how to play it cool, I DO NOT KNOW WHAT I AM DOING.

Don’t get me wrong, I am having fun. Micaela, my sister that you are going to hear much more about, and I go out often and we ALWAYS have a great time. I have met a few people, and maybe one will stick, but it is scary to have hopes about any of it. We say we have hopes of having hopes. I am in this place where it feels like eventually they all choose someone else anyways. So as much fun as we have, it is hard sometimes to be home on a Sunday night after all the fun is over and still feel somewhat alone, but I am working on it.

I am not really sure where this post is going, but I have decided I want to write more about mine and Mic’s adventures and being in the dating realm. The Tragic Girls are essentially back but in a whole new light ;). Get ready for some fun and tragic stories (and lots of code names)!

 

Where to Fish?

The topic of “fishing” has been coming up oh so often in my life now. For those of you who have not been following along, fishing is my code for finding an eligible bachelor. My bffff and I started calling it that at the Angel game we went to a couple weeks ago (catch up here). Since then it has been a topic of discussion. On my Instagram story I posted a question, “Where do you find people or where did you find your person?”. That has been my biggest wonder. Obviously I know you need to go out (which I am just so bleh about) but where are good places to go out to? Among the answers I got, the most common answer was online. Come to think of it, everyone I have spoken to about being single, their first question has been “are you on the dating apps?”.

Is this the new societal norm that when one becomes single you instantly make an online profile? Do people from our generation not go out to find someone the good old fashion way? I can’t help but wonder, did I miss out on that way of life?

I was in three long term relationships with no casual dating in between. I have actually never been on a real date. When I say real, I mean a date with someone I didn’t know previously. I have never just met someone and exchanged numbers because we were both interested and then gone on a date. Is this not how it happens anymore?

This is in no offense to anyone who has tried online dating or even who has succeeded at it, but to me personally, I always thought online dating was for when you have given up on trying to find someone on your own by going out into the world. I feel like I shouldn’t even try online dating until I have at least given myself a chance of finding someone on my own, yet everyone else seems it is acceptable to just go straight for dating apps. Are we that unable of finding a match for ourselves?

Again, this is in no offense to anyone on the apps, this is my personal opinion. There is nothing wrong with finding a date online, just in my personal opinion, I would like to try it on my own first. Mind you, I never go out so this process is going swimmingly. But I am finally in the mindset where I want to go out, so if you have any REAL suggestions of good places to go, let me know.

This doesn’t mean I might not be on the apps in the future, I just want to bet on myself and give myself a try. I know I am not a great talker. I feel so awkward and talk fast when I am nervous. I need to challenge myself and meet someone in person. ¬†Starting off meeting someone via an online chat is not going to help the situation. In church they said there are the most connections today than ever before, but there is the least amount of connectedness than ever before. We connect online but do not know how to actually be connected. I think we need to change this!

I hope my next fishing post will be about me getting out there. My bffff said she will be my wing woman so we just need to make some plans, are you ready bfff?!

I think in realty I am just really excited to pick out an outfit for a date LOL! I bought a super cute top from the Nordstrom Anniversary sale that I thought would be cute for a date that I don’t have yet. I wore this other outfit below last night and I woke up to a text from my bffff saying it was cute and asked if I went fishing. At first I thought she literally meant fishing with a pole and all HAHA! But come to think of it, this would make a cute casual date outfit. Items linked below!

Top (this top is almost sold out so here are a couple similar options: one and two | Jeans | Shoes | Necklace

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