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2025 Recap, Grief, and Tomorrow

It is already January 15th, and I have not posted my annual one and only blog post of the year, my New Year’s post. I cannot believe that is all I got out last year. Not going to lie, I am a bit disappointed in myself. I have several unfinished posts in my drafts, but none I ever got to finishing and posting. My goal last year was twelve posts, one post a month. That is totally doable, but I did not prioritize. I will try again this year. 

2025 was a year, in fact, it has been the hardest year of my life so far. The first seven months were great. My two little sisters both had baby showers and new babies. A new nephew in April and a new niece in July. Our large family just keeps getting bigger. But then… one of the worst things imaginable happened. 

On July 25th, by Dad got into a bad accident. On August 3rd, we lost him. Even though we are approaching the six month mark, it still feels like yesterday. I still get flashes from the hospital every day like little jump attacks. I still can go from totally happy to fighting back tears in an instant, or sobbing alone in my car. I still have the urge to call him every single day. 

It is so easy to think that life isn’t fair. Lately, it has felt that way. It was only two years before my Dad passed that my husband’s Dad passed. The thoughts have crossed my mind multiple times, “How come WE do not get to have dads?”, “How come we didn’t get to keep even one of them?”.

Leading up to my Dad’s accident, the idea of forever good-byes was really getting to me. In stories, books, movies, a good bye was sending me over the edge. Perhaps it was a warning. A warning that I was getting a forever good bye. The permanence of it still has yet to sink in. When I think about what happened, I cannot help but think it is fake news. Like no, this is not my life, that could not happen. But it did, and it is permanent. An irreversible change. We KNOW death is permanent. But when it happens this close to you, to someone that has been your constant for your entire life, the someone that was not supposed to go yet because you had so much more you needed him for, when that happens, the realization of how irreversible death is hits you in the face like you never truly knew what death meant. 

“…the realization of how irreversible death is hits you in the face like you never truly knew what death meant.”

Although I have a ton of family, I have such a sense of aloneness. Not in the way of feeling lonely, but feeling like I am on my own now. One of my sisters and I discussed this. Yes we are in our thirties, but I feel like a kid still. Who is supposed to guide me or look after me now? I am an adult with a family of my own, but I still always had my dad. The reminder that I once was a kid and he raised me. But he always told us that he did his job. That if he were to die today, he knew us girls would be okay. We will be. He raised us well, but that does not mean we will ever stop needing him.

Now we have reached 2026, a new year, and I have to say that my dad passed LAST year. I do not feel ready for that. It feels like he left us yesterday. We had a Celebration of Life for him last September. WHAT?! Lunacy. I remember feeling like I was at a fake event, living an imposter moment. 

Yet the strange thing through all of this grief is that life goes on. We have kept on living. He would want us to, but there is also no choice. Time moves on and us with it. We have the choice on how we live it, but there is no stopping each tomorrow from coming. 

My son is two now, and he is who keeps me moving. His world is full of discovery and new things. Continuing to see the world through his eyes keeps me moving forward. I do not want to hinder his childhood because I feel like I cannot move. 

He saw me start to cry the other day because I listened to one of my Dad’s old voicemails. My son was all smiling and talking and saw my tears and stopped and looked so concerned. He said, “Mommy sad,” and gave me a hug. I needed it. And then we moved back on to playing with monster trucks. 

I am not quite sure where I am going with this. Just know that I am still here despite the last year. I am working to continue to show up for my family and for myself. I am working to raise my son in a way that would make his Papa proud. 

Queue “It’s a Great Day to be Alive” (my Dad’s favorite song) because it is. Each day is a gift, and we need to remember that. 

Cheers to tomorrow. I love you Dad. 

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My Blog Relationship Status

I have been thinking about my blog a lot lately, and how I want to get back into it (I am always in a state of “wanting to get back into it”). But I also need to address and come to terms of where I am at relationship wise with my blog. I started this seven years ago now (as Tragic Girls), and have been the.B.Law for five and a half years I think. But over the years, my blogging activities were circumstantial to what was going on in my life.

When I started off as Tragic Girls, it was both fun and scary, I posted timidly. I remember the first time I published, I was so giddy I didn’t even sleep well, wondering what people would think as they read my own words. Which thinking back on that now was silly considering I had no followers. But low and behold, some people read, and I felt cool.

Fast forward a year and a half, I changed the blog name to the.B.Law, to focus on style and fashion. I lived with my ex at the time. I was really pumped and excited about now changing my focus to style, but was still posting timidly since my ex thought the whole thing was lame. Instead of letting that fuel my fire in an “I’ll show you” kind of way, I let it hinder me. I was really hesitant to create an Instagram account for my blog because of him, but I made one anyways after one of my friends made one for her new blog with no hesitation. She inspired me, so I went for it (shoutout Amanda).

Another year and a half later and I was moving in with my older sister and her family after my ex broke it off. At that point, my blog relationship completely changed. I IMMERSED myself in it. I was planning, writing, and posting three times a week, planning and posting style pics almost every day on Instagram, and going out every weekend to create content. I loved Sundays because that was the day I would sit down with my phone, laptop, and planner and create my content calendar for the next week. This time was really enjoyable for me, I needed it. But it wasn’t until almost a year later that I realized I was using my blog as a crutch to cope with feeling broken. Which I wouldn’t necessarily say was a bad thing, but could have been if I would have kept it up longer than was needed. It was both a healing mechanism and a distraction.

Next, a year later (maybe? getting confused on the time), I was still living with my sister (but in their new house), and getting closer to one of my younger sisters. I was single and her boyfriend worked every weekend, so we started going line dancing. We started attending line dance lessons at our favorite bar a few times a week. These activities left me little time to blog, but I felt okay with that since I was having so much fun. But when I would sit down to blog, I again felt timid. This new circle of friends were not into the whole blog scene, which was fine, but I let it affect my decisions to blog. I didn’t want to appear lame that I had a blog that wasn’t big and wanted to build a following on Instagram. I was older than all of them and really let it get to my head. So I just didn’t blog much. Now were these their actual feelings towards blogging? I don’t know because I never felt confident enough to just do it and that is on me.

Second to last chapter in this story… another year or so later, and I have a new boyfriend. If you have been following then you know who he is. Preston, aka – Mr. Montana, and I start dating and get this… he LIKES that I write and even finds it ATTRACTIVE. Um what?! But now, flash forward to today, he has been back in CA for a year, and I still have not been blogging, mostly because we were and are always doing things on the weekends.

This past weekend I read the new launch of Indy Blue’s blog (the young 23 year old internet queen who inspires me), and was of course inspired after reading her latest post. I want to come back to this space I created because I WANT TO. Not because I feel like I should, or come back timidly because of who I am with or who I am hanging out with. I want to write freely about what I want whether that be a style post, a sappy in my feelings post, or just about something I think is fun. I created this blog for me, and I so often forget that. Not to be rude, but this blog isn’t about what you, my readers want, it is about what I want, and if that happens to interest you then great, pull up a chair. If not, you don’t have to read.

For so long, I have not been posting for me, letting others unknowingly dictate my presence in something I created.

I want to get back to a good place with my blog. The.B.Law is my creation and has been here for me through many different stages in my life over the past seven years. Now that I am stable (LOL), it’s time for me to make this platform stable, but with no pressure. As much as I love a planner, which I just bought a new super cute one, I am going to try and aim for a posting goal, rather than a posting deadline. I always feel like Friday is a good day for posting a blog, but if I miss a Friday, it is okay. As for what I might post about, who knows! Could be anything, but you can rest assured that whatever I post, will mean something to me. For so long, I have not been posting for me, letting others unknowingly dictate my presence in something I created. There is no fault on them, just lessons to learn for me. But now it is time.

So if you have followed along this far, thank you, and I hope you will continue to do so. Don’t be shy of the comments box, if you have ever felt the same feel free to share. We are all navigating this era of the world. The internet instantly connects us all, but is hurting real connections. Knowing you’re not alone in your experiences sure can make a difference.

Until my next post, talk to you soon.

xoxo – Britt

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2017 New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year everyone! I hope you all had a fun and safe New Year’s Eve, I know I did! My boyfriend and I did a repeat from last year and went to Amanda’s, from Glitter It Gold, house. It was so fun again. We made dinner, well Amanda made dinner because she is an amazing cook and I helped by chopping up mushrooms, had champagne and cocktails all night, had her homemade dessert (ice cream and lemon-something-something bunt cake), played Card Against Humanity, then played corn hole in the living room until midnight. Their other friends came too, who I like to consider my friends as well now. They had to leave for another party but came back right after midnight. We all thought we would barely make it to midnight but we did! Once the other couple came back the three of us girls ended up staying up until 3:00AM! It was so nice and we didn’t have to worry about driving or rides or anything.

I can’t believe it is 2017. I still can’t get over the fact of how fast 2016 went. I hope this new year slows down a little. When I was thinking about my resolutions for this year, I realized that they are going to be very similar to last year’s. Not that I failed last year, I did attempt at all of them but I think I could have put in more effort. This year I want to be better and try harder, find my inner motivation.

2017 New Year’s Resolutions:

  1. The obvious… working out and eating healthy– this is always one of my goals and one of almost everyone else’s, but this year I have new motivation. In June we are going to Cancun for my sister’s wedding for a week and I want to look my best… and I have NEVER felt my worst. I have ben working out pretty regularly but I guess I have been doing so lazily. Just doing cardio mostly and not being too serious. I don’t even want to see myself in a bikini right now. I have actually been really looking forward for the New Year to start this. Apart from working out (better) I am changing my diet. I am going to go gluten free again and this time around I want to start ACTUALLY trying something new. I am so stuck in the few healthy things I know how to make and although I want to try new things, I somehow never sit down to find the time to research and realize how easy some of these things can be. I have already been making meal lists and finding things on Pinterest. I also bought a few new workout things from the Target value spot: pink yoga mat, pink 5 lb. kettle bell, and a pink fitness bag that you can strap your yoga mat to (are we seeing a theme here?). Not only do I want to feel good about my body and get in shape, but I also want to feel better and have more energy.
  2. Reading– My goal last year was to read 6 books but I ended up about 80 pages short of reading 4. I know I can do better than that. Finishing those 80 pages won’t count for 2017 but after that I already have a pile of 5 books with a 6th on the way from The Book of the Month (BOTM) club.
  3. Reading the bible– my bible has a one year plan in the back where it tells you which pages to read every night of the year. I started last year and didn’t make it very far. Getting behind one night isn’t too bad, but more than that and it is easy to not let yourself get so behind. I am really weird about liking to do things in order. Although I got so far behind I could have still started on whatever day I was at but instead I thought I HAD to catch up and it didn’t work . This year I am going to try my best and if I get too far behind, I will still move forward.
  4. Writing– this goal goes for both blogging and writing my novel. I have like 3 started novel ideas that are only just started. I want to post a blog a MINIMUM of twice a week and work on my novel writing at least 3 times a week. That seems pretty reasonable. Even if I do not get much down, writing more often helps.

Okay, reading these resolutions I noticed that they are not similar to last year’s but they ARE last year’s, with an exception of one. I know I can reach all of these goals and I think I will feel better and more fulfilled doing them all regularly. I am excited to see what this new year will bring and what adventures will come.

Happy New Year!

PS- it has been a year since the blog changed names from Tragic Girls to the.B.Law and I still couldn’t be happier with the name choice.


 





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Black & Yellow

Hello there!

It has been some time, sorry about that! I just wanted to share an outfit and a quick life update. I totally felt like a teacher today with my collard (half) button-up and my cardigan. I love black, white, and yellow together so throwing this yellow cardigan over this black and white gingham print top was a no brainer. My work is pretty cold but these layers together make it to where you do not need a jacket. There are sometimes a jacket can just throw off an outfit you know? The top isn’t too thin and the sweater is fitted so together they keep you pretty warm. I paired this combo with black ankle slacks and some black and “wood” pumps and boom, easy office outfit.


As for life, I have been at my new job for almost a month and a half and I am still loving it! Trying to make new outfits everyday is so fun and actually being able to wear heels is like a dream come true. For anyone who knows me well they know that when it comes to heels I am pretty self conscious about wearing them because of my height. I am about 5′ 8″ so with heels I am easily 6′. I have been working on not caring though and I wear heels majority of the week and it makes me so happy!

I can’t believe its already the end of October. I feel like fall just started and now it seems like it is almost over and it hasn’t even gotten cold yet! I am happy that the temperature has dropped a little and we had a couple days of rain, but can it just be cloudy so I can wear a scarf and drink hot chocolate? Halloween is this weekend and I haven’t even seen Hocus Pocus yet this year. Why does this season get away from us so quickly?! Anyways, although the holidays will be upon us shortly I am excited for the seasons. I am working on getting a bunch of new blogs and new outfits together this weekend so if all goes as planned I will start showing them to you next week!

Also, next month is NaNoWriMo, National Novel Writing Month, and I am going to participate again this year! For those of you who do not know the goal for NaNoWriMo is to write 50,000 words in 30 days, that is about 1,667 words day which is totally doable, you just have to be disciplined. I did pretty well last year but different holiday events rolled around and then Thanksgiving and I let myself slack too much. I didn’t hit 50,000 words but I didn’t fully expect myself to. This year I have a new novel idea that I have been playing around with for two years so I am a little more confident. I want to hit 50,000 words this time. Basically my November will consist of a lot of writing every day, squeezing in blogging, and working out and everything else… except Netflix (sigh!). Wish me luck as it starts! I will keep you updated and will talk to you soon with some new styles!

Sorry this post wasn’t as quick as I thought lol! Happy Tuesday!

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2 Year Blogaversary

Wow I cannot believe that it is already the 2nd anniversary of my blog! This past year has gone by SO fast and so much has happened. Obviously the biggest thing blog wise was the name change from Tragic Girls to the.B.Law. on January 1st. I have been so happy with the change and have really been focusing on writing about more topics, especially style, my love in life. But don’t worry, I am still tragic, I can’t help it.

I feel like I have improved this past year with posting and actually posting more. My first year I wrote 77 posts, this past second year I posted 97! (yes I sat down and counted) There is still room to improve and grow, I want to bring that number up this next year. I always say that I am going to start making schedules for posts, and I will be good about it for a week or two and then I slack. My goal is to really do better with that. I sat down last night and made a schedule for this week and it didn’t even take me very long so I want to now make that my Sunday homework. I love blogging on Sundays anyways so now that will be my day to plan as well. If anyone has any tips on how they schedule or plan out their blogs please share! I would love to hear how other bloggers do it.

I am excited for this year. I want to try some new things and have already started on a couple new projects. It is taking a bit longer than I expected but it is okay, it will be great once I get it done and I am excited to share!

Thank you for all of your support these last two years and I cant wait to see where we go from here!


I also just want to share some of my favorite blogs that I get inspiration from…

Glitter It Gold by Amanda Hellweg – Obviously because she is one of my best friends and also because she inspires me everday and I love how she posts with such confidence!

Simply Audree Kate by Audree Kate – Her blog is so amazing and filled with such great style! She inspires me to try new things and spice up my style!

Barefoot Blonde by Amber Fillerup Clark – I love seeing pictures of her family. They are so cute and she has such great style, beauty, and hair tips.

Talk to you all soon!

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Life Update

Okay, so I am ready to get back in the game here so before I start I will give my brief update on life. My boyfriend joined the army and left for basic training sooner than we thought he would so we had to figure out everything before he left. Our lease is up while he is gone so I have to pack everything up myself. We also had to make a list of apartments we like as options so when he comes back we can HOPEFULLY find a place right away. So that had all been a little stressful. But now we are all in order and he is gone. I am excited for him but I am also sad. I am not going to see him for over three months, and supposedly won’t be ale to talk to him AT ALL either, but it will be okay. I guess I will have a lot of time to write right?! So that is what is happening now! I’ll talk to you all this week! I promise! I have some cute outfits I have been waiting to share! ❤

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Hello Novel, Long Time

So today I opened my novel for the first time since November. After National Novel Writing Month ended I meant to just take a break, but then the holidays happened and I stopped writing. That is going to change now. Working on it today got me motivated to work on it all over again. My go to background for writing is Sex and the City so I started the entire show over again from season one and worked on my novel for four episodes. I think I like to write to it not just because it’s my favorite show, but because I want to be Carrie Bradshaw. So here is to writing again!

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New Year, New Blog, New Resolutions

Happy New Year! 

Welcome to 2016! I hope you all had a fun and safe end to 2015 and are ready to start the new year off right. I know I am. I have recently been really looking forward to this new year, and what got me excited was when I was thinking about what I wanted my new year’s resolutions to be, and yes plural because I have a few!

First off, if you didn’t notice, this is the first post on my revamped blog, this is the first post on the.B.Law!

I have been impatiently waiting for this change and I am so excited. Which brings me to my first resolution: writing. I want to be more motivated and proactive with my writing, and not just on my blog. In November I participated in National Novel Writing Month, where you are supposed to write 50,000 words in a month, well I didn’t hit the goal but it was something I didn’t expect to hit, however it got me writing everyday. Now I have a good start to a novel and I am going to finish it. So my writing resolution is to finish my novel and start editing it, and to have a schedule for all of my blog posts to hold me accountable for posting. I have a cute new agenda ready to take on this task. I also want to put more time into it, no rushing on posts or pictures, I am getting down to business this year!

My second resolution is reading. I have been slacking at reading lately. I picked up a book I had been meaning to finish and was pulled right back into the words and the story. Getting sucked into a book is so different than getting sucked into the TV, it is like being in another world, and just for a little bit you get to escape into someone else’s story. I love it! My goal for the year, don’t judge if this seems small to you, is to read a minimum of six books for the year. Yes, I know six is not that many, but I figured that is one every two months because seriously, you can set your goal high with high hopes and then life gets in the way and you can’t reach it. Six books is a goal I know I can reach and it is a minimum. Reading also helps me write, it gives inspiration, new ideas, and new words. My dance coach in high school always told us that reading increases your vocabulary and she was right!

Another resolution that goes along with reading is reading the Bible. I want to read the entire thing but let’s face it, it’s not easy to read, it’s long, and the temptation to read other books is strong. This resolution is not just mine though. My two sisters and I all got journaling Bibles and there is a one year plan in the back. We are going to do the one year plan together and we get to do the journaling in the wide margins to make it unique and fun. I’m really excited for this.

This resolution may seem silly but I like it, my hair. I ALWAYS curl it and leave it down. It looks good but it is always the same. This year I want to practice and learn how to do new things to my hair, to be more creative and to not give up when I can’t figure out something as simple as a french braid (still trying that one)!

Lastly I have the usual, every person, every year resolution: eating healthy and working out. I have already been easing into this. My biggest problem is giving into myself when I want something sweet. I have a HUGE sweet tooth. My other big problem is soda. I know it is so bad for you but I just love a nice cold coke. Cutting it out completely seems to never last so I will definitely be cutting down. I am also going back to no gluten. I did an experiment where I didn’t eat gluten for two months and I didn’t get one migraine! For those of you who know me know that is a miracle. I usually get AT LEAST one migraine a week. Not eating gluten is no easy task, I just love bread, but if I did it then I can do it again, so from now on NO BREAD! Excuse me while I cry in the corner. As for working out, I feel like I have a motivation I haven’t had in past years. I think because now that I work a desk job and am not managing a retail store I am getting a tad squishy in places that have never been squishy. So this girl will be getting a new pair of Nikes and getting her butt in gear!

Anyways, sorry for the long post but I am so excited for everything to come! Have a great New Year’s weekend and welcome to the.B.Law! 

  

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Writing Update

So I know NaNoWriMo is well over and obviously I didn’t finish but that’s okay! I’m not done with my novel but that doesn’t mean I’m done writing. I will finish this novel and just because I need more time doesn’t mean I failed, it’s okay because I am determined to finish. I just wanted to let you all know that I haven’t given up!

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