2018… What A Year

This year has come to a close so quickly. I thought this year would go by slower because we weren’t counting down to anything. Last year my sister was getting married so I had her bridal shower in April, her bachelorette party in May, and in June we all went to Mexico for a week for the wedding. Best vacation I have ever been on, I still miss it and think about it constantly. But all of those exciting things made half of the year go by so fast. Then when fall hits, the holidays follow closely behind and boom it is a new year. I thought since we had no big events to countdown to this year, it would go by slower. I was so wrong. I think this year may have been even faster than last.

It is no secret that my 2018 started off terribly. For those who don’t know, to put it shortly, I got dumped in the end of January (the 28th to be precise because I am a psycho girl and remember everything) and I lived with the guy. By March I moved in with my sister and I have been here since. It was a rough transition. It was a rough time of my life in general. Losing someone because they CHOSE to not choose you anymore is a whole different kind of hurt. Hours I spent in my car (not by choice, but the move tripled my commute) thinking of all the ways I went wrong or what I should have done differently, or how he just didn’t want ME or how maybe I wasn’t good enough (if you want the raw feelings of those days read this post from May). To see me now from where I was then, I have grown a lot. Some days are still bad but in different ways, I am still growing and learning. I have since learned and realized that what we had was not what I wanted, but what I hoped would change into what I wanted. I have learned that I should not have to make excuses for the emotion that was lacking, or the needs that were not being met. I have realized how much I actually need simple signs of affection and am deserving of that. I am coming to find out that it is okay to be picky and to be myself because I want someone who wants all parts of me (including the weirdo and including the psycho).

Something I have probably suffered from most this year was comparing myself to my friends and family and feeling left out because I am the only single one now. What is funny though is that this is all me because no one has left me out for being single (maybe that is one of this biggest things I have learned this year, that I am literally my own worst enemy and the biggest critic in the whole dang world). My friends still all include me of course, and nothing is really different except that I don’t have a date to things. But it is not like all my friends are the types of PDA couples who are all lovey dovey all of the time. I am so thankful that Heather’s boyfriend has just grown accustomed to me being their third wheel LOL! They even call their spare bedroom my room (you guys are da best and I love being your roomie/extra date 😉 ). I just need to work on feeling confident with where I am in life right now.

It was hard to go from where I was, to being single and renting a room from my sister because I can’t afford to live in the same city, let alone county, as my job (I am also letting my age play a huge factor in my expectations which is just silly but yeah). I would have to constantly remind myself that this was not permanent, it was just my current situation that I was working through. Not that I was embarrassed by it, but I felt like I had taken so many steps back. So far back that I was living back in the town I had left. But no one has judged me for it. Most people understand because California is so freaking expensive to live in alone. But since moving, I have come to terms with my current situation and I am okay. I know there is nothing wrong with it, and I get to live with my sister, who is one of my best friends, and get to be here while my niece is young and get to watch her grow and be a role model for her. Things could be worse, but they aren’t. I am with family and I am safe.

Now for some good things (sorry, I didn’t expect this to be a novel but I guess it is going to be). I hadn’t been single for a long time span IN A LONG TIME. After getting over the whole bad part about it, I started getting excited about the good. I had and still have no one to answer to. If I want to go do something I can do it, and I do! I wanted to focus more on my stuff, like this blog, and I have, AND IT SHOWS. All of my friends have told me what a difference they have seen in my work and content, and just being creative in general. I do this because I love it and I want to make something out of it. Having some real focus and time has made a world of difference (plus he-who-must-not-be-named didn’t really support my blog and thought it was dumb *GASP!*). [sidebar: it still amazes me how we can finally be at a point where we recognize all of the bad things and the red flags we ignored yet still miss them sometimes. Is it them we miss or just the time and the “comfort”?]

I don’t know how many times I just left for the weekend and went to Palm Springs to be with Heather. Or the three or more times I went to Vegas to visit my sister Tab, or the random times I call up Cher and ask her to hang out because it literally takes two minutes to drive to her house. I have freedom to be me right now and I am really starting to enjoy it. I cannot wait to really take advantage of it next year. 2018 was all about healing and learning. I think 2019 will be about learning and experiencing. I am ready to have fun, have adventures, learn and grow. What I am most excited about is all of this exciting stuff and tying it to my blog. It is all Tab and I have been able to talk about, all of the new things we want to do in 2019 writing and content creating wise. Which is why you may think it is funny that I am so excited for my blog in 2019 and I am taking the entire month of January off *insert puzzled face*.

I will still be around on Instagram, and using my captions as a form of writing and keeping you up to date, but I need a month to focus on something completely different. There is some studying for a course I need to get done that I have had for some months now, but I always choose to blog instead of study because obviously that is way more fun. I have three books I need to get through and I am not even half way through the first. My goal is to finish the first book by the end of January (or earlier if possible), then I will hopefully be in such a studying groove that I can bring back blogging in February and still finish the second book by the end of Feb, then finish the third by March (I will tell you what I am doing once I am done haha). I am thinking I will come back to the blog on my birthday, Feb. 7th, since that is kind of like my new year, right? Plus once I have this studying complete I will have even more time to focus on the blog.

Okay I will end here since this is getting lengthy, I hope you have made it this far! I am excited for tonight. I have NEVER been this excited for a new year but I am ready to take it on. I will post my resolutions/goals for the new year tomorrow and then I am out for the month! If I end up doing really well with studying maybe I will reward myself with a post, but let’s be honest, this stuff is boring so I don’t see rewards in my future. But here is to wishful thinking and no sleep!

Happy New Year’s Eve everyone! Be safe and talk to you next year!

Cheers! -Britt

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Yes I was this extra and made my sister take this photo yesterday so I would have it ready. BUT ISN’T IT THE CUTEST?!

Look linked here! Dress | Heels | Champs (Costco 😉 )

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! I hope everyone had a great and safe time. I know this post seems late, right? Well my “blogging new year” didn’t start until yesterday. Why? Well my coworker was in jury duty SINCE BEFORE THANKSGIVING! Isn’t that ridiculous?! So for the last two months I was trying to do my work while trying to cover her work, AND THEN my other coworker is on a three week vacation AANNDD THEN (I wish my font could get bigger there for emphasis) my manager went on vacation for a week. So yeah, I have worked late every day except one when I had to leave for a dentist appointment. That was the only day I saw a glimpse of the sun after work, not even the sun but a sunset. Anyways her first day back was yesterday and I was all pumped to hit the ground running this past weekend and I get the flu. THE FREAKING FLU! I spent all weekend in bed and even had to call off yesterday because I still didn’t feel right and I didn’t want to get my coworkers sick. Three out of the four of us share a small office, so close air is shared. I am feeling mostly better besides my throat which aches when I swallow and eat and I am getting a horrendous cough. So a great start off to the new year, but we keep on keeping on.

I am excited to get this year going but I feel nervous like it is already going to go by so fast, 2017 was like a blur! I think a big part of last year going so quick was the fact that I was counting down to my sister’s wedding events in April, May, and June so half of my year literally flew. Then the second half was recovering and then the holidays. This year I hope to just take one step at a time. I so far have no major plans. My sisters, BFFF, and I planned a one night Plan Springs getaway and I feel myself getting excited for that I am like dude, just chill. Apart from how fast it went, 2017 was a growing year for the.B.Law. I got more comfortable in my niche, grew immensely in followers, and even started collaborating. It gets me excited for 2018 to see what it will bring.

My resolutions the last couple years had great intentions but really were not ideal. I don’t always take into account how busy I am, then I set these goals that on paper with no clock work great, but when it comes down to it, I just don’t have time for everything no matter how hard I try. Then I am just left feeling disappointed instead of accomplished. If you remember my last resolutions they were like a list. This year I want to keep is simple. I want to actually get healthy inside and out. I know everyone always says that every year, and I do not mean a strict diet because I have never really done one of those and when you live with a boy it is kind of impossible… at least with my man-child. What I mean is I want to actually pay attention to what I am putting in my body and on my body. I want to always try and make the healthier choice when I can. I even got my favorite Starbs the other morning, a white chocolate mocha no whip (because why do I need to put 70 calories on top of my already a million?), with almond milk instead of the normal 2%. I mean it was different and not my favorite, but it is something I can get used to. I even bought vanilla almond milk creamer from the store. That one is pretty good I must say.

Brando got a juicer from his dad for Christmas and we have made a couple juices. They were not terrible but I did feel like I was drinking a salad. We will learn. But I think making the better choice will help make this not feel like something we need to do, but want to do and I am hoping it just changes into a lifestyle. I obviously need to get back to the gym too, but I bought a 21 day yoga pass for a nearby studio that I am super excited to get into. I feel like yoga could be my thing.

For skin I want to start reading labels and look at the ingredients for make up and skin care. I want to find better brands (the first one I already love is Pacifica!). I recently found a new one at Target called Love Beauty & Planet. I bought their lavender body wash and I am obsessed! But I will go more into products I have found at a later time. If you have any recommendations please let me know!

For the blog I want to work on consistency and content. I am guilty of just throwing a quick few words together about what I wore and posting it. I want to give you all more quality posts and I apologize for the more recent ones that have been lacking, you deserve better.

As I said I hope you all had a great new year and are ready to get going (or if you have been going this last week good for you! LOL!) So cheers to the new year! I think 2018 will be great!

2017 New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year everyone! I hope you all had a fun and safe New Year’s Eve, I know I did! My boyfriend and I did a repeat from last year and went to Amanda’s, from Glitter It Gold, house. It was so fun again. We made dinner, well Amanda made dinner because she is an amazing cook and I helped by chopping up mushrooms, had champagne and cocktails all night, had her homemade dessert (ice cream and lemon-something-something bunt cake), played Card Against Humanity, then played corn hole in the living room until midnight. Their other friends came too, who I like to consider my friends as well now. They had to leave for another party but came back right after midnight. We all thought we would barely make it to midnight but we did! Once the other couple came back the three of us girls ended up staying up until 3:00AM! It was so nice and we didn’t have to worry about driving or rides or anything.

I can’t believe it is 2017. I still can’t get over the fact of how fast 2016 went. I hope this new year slows down a little. When I was thinking about my resolutions for this year, I realized that they are going to be very similar to last year’s. Not that I failed last year, I did attempt at all of them but I think I could have put in more effort. This year I want to be better and try harder, find my inner motivation.

2017 New Year’s Resolutions:

  1. The obvious… working out and eating healthy– this is always one of my goals and one of almost everyone else’s, but this year I have new motivation. In June we are going to Cancun for my sister’s wedding for a week and I want to look my best… and I have NEVER felt my worst. I have ben working out pretty regularly but I guess I have been doing so lazily. Just doing cardio mostly and not being too serious. I don’t even want to see myself in a bikini right now. I have actually been really looking forward for the New Year to start this. Apart from working out (better) I am changing my diet. I am going to go gluten free again and this time around I want to start ACTUALLY trying something new. I am so stuck in the few healthy things I know how to make and although I want to try new things, I somehow never sit down to find the time to research and realize how easy some of these things can be. I have already been making meal lists and finding things on Pinterest. I also bought a few new workout things from the Target value spot: pink yoga mat, pink 5 lb. kettle bell, and a pink fitness bag that you can strap your yoga mat to (are we seeing a theme here?). Not only do I want to feel good about my body and get in shape, but I also want to feel better and have more energy.
  2. Reading– My goal last year was to read 6 books but I ended up about 80 pages short of reading 4. I know I can do better than that. Finishing those 80 pages won’t count for 2017 but after that I already have a pile of 5 books with a 6th on the way from The Book of the Month (BOTM) club.
  3. Reading the bible– my bible has a one year plan in the back where it tells you which pages to read every night of the year. I started last year and didn’t make it very far. Getting behind one night isn’t too bad, but more than that and it is easy to not let yourself get so behind. I am really weird about liking to do things in order. Although I got so far behind I could have still started on whatever day I was at but instead I thought I HAD to catch up and it didn’t work . This year I am going to try my best and if I get too far behind, I will still move forward.
  4. Writing– this goal goes for both blogging and writing my novel. I have like 3 started novel ideas that are only just started. I want to post a blog a MINIMUM of twice a week and work on my novel writing at least 3 times a week. That seems pretty reasonable. Even if I do not get much down, writing more often helps.

Okay, reading these resolutions I noticed that they are not similar to last year’s but they ARE last year’s, with an exception of one. I know I can reach all of these goals and I think I will feel better and more fulfilled doing them all regularly. I am excited to see what this new year will bring and what adventures will come.

Happy New Year!

PS- it has been a year since the blog changed names from Tragic Girls to the.B.Law and I still couldn’t be happier with the name choice.


 





New Year, New Blog, New Resolutions

Happy New Year! 

Welcome to 2016! I hope you all had a fun and safe end to 2015 and are ready to start the new year off right. I know I am. I have recently been really looking forward to this new year, and what got me excited was when I was thinking about what I wanted my new year’s resolutions to be, and yes plural because I have a few!

First off, if you didn’t notice, this is the first post on my revamped blog, this is the first post on the.B.Law!

I have been impatiently waiting for this change and I am so excited. Which brings me to my first resolution: writing. I want to be more motivated and proactive with my writing, and not just on my blog. In November I participated in National Novel Writing Month, where you are supposed to write 50,000 words in a month, well I didn’t hit the goal but it was something I didn’t expect to hit, however it got me writing everyday. Now I have a good start to a novel and I am going to finish it. So my writing resolution is to finish my novel and start editing it, and to have a schedule for all of my blog posts to hold me accountable for posting. I have a cute new agenda ready to take on this task. I also want to put more time into it, no rushing on posts or pictures, I am getting down to business this year!

My second resolution is reading. I have been slacking at reading lately. I picked up a book I had been meaning to finish and was pulled right back into the words and the story. Getting sucked into a book is so different than getting sucked into the TV, it is like being in another world, and just for a little bit you get to escape into someone else’s story. I love it! My goal for the year, don’t judge if this seems small to you, is to read a minimum of six books for the year. Yes, I know six is not that many, but I figured that is one every two months because seriously, you can set your goal high with high hopes and then life gets in the way and you can’t reach it. Six books is a goal I know I can reach and it is a minimum. Reading also helps me write, it gives inspiration, new ideas, and new words. My dance coach in high school always told us that reading increases your vocabulary and she was right!

Another resolution that goes along with reading is reading the Bible. I want to read the entire thing but let’s face it, it’s not easy to read, it’s long, and the temptation to read other books is strong. This resolution is not just mine though. My two sisters and I all got journaling Bibles and there is a one year plan in the back. We are going to do the one year plan together and we get to do the journaling in the wide margins to make it unique and fun. I’m really excited for this.

This resolution may seem silly but I like it, my hair. I ALWAYS curl it and leave it down. It looks good but it is always the same. This year I want to practice and learn how to do new things to my hair, to be more creative and to not give up when I can’t figure out something as simple as a french braid (still trying that one)!

Lastly I have the usual, every person, every year resolution: eating healthy and working out. I have already been easing into this. My biggest problem is giving into myself when I want something sweet. I have a HUGE sweet tooth. My other big problem is soda. I know it is so bad for you but I just love a nice cold coke. Cutting it out completely seems to never last so I will definitely be cutting down. I am also going back to no gluten. I did an experiment where I didn’t eat gluten for two months and I didn’t get one migraine! For those of you who know me know that is a miracle. I usually get AT LEAST one migraine a week. Not eating gluten is no easy task, I just love bread, but if I did it then I can do it again, so from now on NO BREAD! Excuse me while I cry in the corner. As for working out, I feel like I have a motivation I haven’t had in past years. I think because now that I work a desk job and am not managing a retail store I am getting a tad squishy in places that have never been squishy. So this girl will be getting a new pair of Nikes and getting her butt in gear!

Anyways, sorry for the long post but I am so excited for everything to come! Have a great New Year’s weekend and welcome to the.B.Law! 

  

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